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Gay-Lesbian Youth Support Group To Host Town Hall Meeting This Month To Discuss Teen's Suicide

Publication: The East Hampton Press
By Michael Wright
And Virginia Garrison   Oct 9, 2012 3:31 PM
Oct 9, 2012 4:22 PM
In the wake of the death of an East Hampton teenager of an apparent suicide last week, the head of the Long Island Gay and Lesbian Youth network said the organization would fast-track its efforts to open a community center on the South Fork to provide support to gay 
students and their families and friends.

On October 22 at 6 p.m., the group will also hold a town meeting at East Hampton High School, where the teenager, David Hernandez, was a junior, to discuss the circumstances surrounding his death and how others can be helped before they consider suicide.

David, who was 16 years old and born in Ecuador, died on September 29. Rumors that he had been bullied at school for being gay have been circulating on the internet, but they... more

Wow. Sometimes having too many places you COULD go, sanctioned or not, "EQUAILITY" or not, could be confusing in and of itself to kids. Not saying "be secretive" about sex or ANYTHING but can't kids just be kids without 'exploring" or "declaring" themselves" at 14, 15 and 16 years old? I completely understand "personal choice". Just don't think it should be "promoted" as an "alternative" amongst youths if we're trying to teach them how to deal with ANY interpersonal relationsahip to begin with ...more
By Board Watcher (432), East Hampton on Oct 9, 12 8:59 PM
Board watcher, you do not get it. Were you ever 14, 15, 16? That age is the height of exploration regarding sexuality for ALL youth. If someone at the age of 14 realizes they are gay, why should they not have a place to go? Why should they not have therapists and counselors to talk to? The statement is ridiculous and belies a prejudice that so many people have about gay youth.
By progressnow (486), sag harbor on Oct 10, 12 7:09 AM
I agree with BW's sentiment. If you keep handing your children over to experts, when it comes time for you to need care from them, they're going to hand you over to experts. And that you're not gonna like.
By Speonk Shores (21), Remsenburg on Oct 10, 12 11:31 AM
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"Equality" - no spell check in this arena - have to comment also on "A gay-straight alliance club" in the middle school ... when I was in 6th, 7th, 8th grade I was taught "Don't do it" for a myriad of reasons; diseases, self-respect, the consequences of pregnancy and, in general, "emotional" consequences. Am not saying parents shouldn't discuss issues with thier kids, just saying 14, 15 is not the age, in my opinion, for "choices" to be taught and promoted by this group. Kids will grow up and ...more
By Board Watcher (432), East Hampton on Oct 9, 12 9:19 PM
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Again, I agree with BW's sentiment. In 2010, a number of young people around me came out as gay. Two years later, they're all straight. Next year, who knows. While the young people declare now, both times, they do not take it as seriously as we older folk would. It does not hold them back from change, in any/either direction.
By Speonk Shores (21), Remsenburg on Oct 10, 12 11:59 AM
Maybe they are "both", so to speak. There is such a thing as bisexual out there too.
By Mr. Z (4567), North Sea on Oct 13, 12 4:39 PM
I'd like to know when the posters here made the "choice" to be heterosexual,and why they didn't "choose" differently.
By philathome (5464), Southampton on Oct 14, 12 5:18 AM
Wow Board Watcher, we are not talking about when you were in school we are talking about now, At 14 and 15 that is when kids need the support. Sex is not the issue here. Being able to be yourself and have someone to talk to is the issue. Gay or straight. Your message is very clear and very sad. Being gay is not a choice its just the way it is.
By jacks (44), hampton bays on Oct 10, 12 7:37 AM
Exactly. This has nothing to do with sex, which is exactly the type of ignorance that leads to bigotry and homophobia, which in turn results in situations like we have here. BW, you are the minority, and a rapidly declining one, thankfully.
By johnj (112), Westhampton on Oct 10, 12 12:17 PM
As if being gay is a choice ? You are quite mistaken. And it's people like you who don't understand the reality that make the youth scared to come out and be themselves. People are far too judgmental and lack the ability to see things from another view. Until that changes, kids will either bottle up their feelings & worry about the social repercussions or come out and not be accepted and/or bullied because they don't fit the social norm. Kids need to learn we are all equal no matter who we love. ...more
By tranquility1985 (16), Westhampton on Oct 10, 12 9:50 AM
Board watcher's post displays an ignorance that is typical of those that do not understand that sexuality is not a choice. It is this type of blind arrogance that is exactly why counseling and clubs HAVE to be available for gay students.
By witch hazel (128), tatooine on Oct 10, 12 11:00 AM
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An additional point is that it's the Gay STRAIGHT Alliance. It's a safe place where kids can come together in tolerance and respect, with no regard to sexual identity. They sponsor events like "No Name-Calling Week" and "Think Before You Speak," which cross the boundaries of race and creed, and serve to protect everyone.

We are very lucky to have such an active GSA in our midst, especially with gay teen suicide being 300 times that of other groups who sadly choose to end their lives, and ...more
By blueheron (8), East Hampton on Oct 10, 12 1:26 PM
People are people... how about we treat all as such?
By Allergic2Stupidity (73), Riverhead on Oct 10, 12 7:27 PM
that would be nice Allergic, sad to say with people like Board Watcher making comments its clear that's not the case. Gay or Straight, black, white or brown - we are all the same. It should not matter who you love.
By jacks (44), hampton bays on Oct 11, 12 7:27 AM
It may be time for East Hampton High School to comment publicly, in light of the mother's allegations the Star today?
By PBR (2462), Southampton on Oct 11, 12 1:58 PM
I agree PBR, the school should comment on this.
By jacks (44), hampton bays on Oct 17, 12 8:09 AM
I had a male friend who told me that when he was 6 his dad bought him a baseball glove.He wished it were a doll.
By TianaBob (256), S.Jamesport on Oct 17, 12 8:57 PM
There is a new article in the Star.
By PBR (2462), Southampton on Oct 18, 12 4:37 PM
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