The Whole Self - a Powerful Prescription: Social Connection

The Best Medicine 
You’re Not Taking

What if your doctor offered a prescription that could significantly increase your lifespan and bring greater physical and mental health throughout your life? What if this script were drug-free, cost-free, had no harmful side effects, and was accessible to almost everyone? Would you take it?

Sounds like a no-brainer, right? Well, this remedy is already within reach — it lies in the power of meaningful social connections.

Why We’re Wired To Connect

Humans are social creatures by nature. Biologically, we evolved to thrive in groups, relying on one another for survival and emotional support — something we still profoundly need today for overall wellness.

Research consistently shows that meaningful social bonds not only enhance mental health but also play a powerful role in physical well-being. Strong social ties help reduce stress, provide emotional support, and foster a sense of belonging — all of which contribute to better health and longer lives.

When we face stress, having a solid support system can buffer the negative effects. Simple conversations with friends or family can bring emotional relief and reassurance while activating our parasympathetic — or “rest and digest” — nervous system. This calming response lowers cortisol, our primary stress hormone, which in turn helps strengthen immunity, lower blood pressure, reduce the risk of heart disease, balance hormones, aid digestion, and stabilize blood sugar levels.

My “Healthy Habit” Book Club

My book club comes to mind when I think about how compelling this is. Yes, we read books together — and yes, wine is often involved when we meet (hello, balance!) — but what we share goes much deeper.

This amazing group of women has shown up for one another time and time again. We’ve been there through the death of loved ones, retirements, moves, and even dreadful medical diagnoses. Being part of a group like this offers real comfort during hard times and brings the deep satisfaction that comes from supporting others. Plus, our get-togethers are full of joy and laughter! I would not hesitate to say that this book club is good for our health.

Big and Small Connections Matter

In addition to group support, intimate relationships and close friendships can be even more personal and impactful. These one-on-one bonds offer companionship, personal growth, and joy that often surpass what group networks provide.

Connection doesn’t always have to be deep to be meaningful. A warm smile to a passerby or a kind word to a stranger can lift another person’s mood — and in turn, make us feel better too.

The Science of Feeling Good

Socializing triggers the release of feel-good neurotransmitters like serotonin and dopamine — our brain’s natural mood boosters. I can literally feel the effects of these chemicals after a good conversation with a friend.

One dear friend and I talk every day, and I truly notice a difference on the days we don’t. I feel the same with my older daughter — who feels more like a close friend than offspring — and is currently studying abroad. She usually calls daily for a few minutes while walking between classes, and after we speak, I feel emotionally recharged and content.

The Healing Power of Presence

Social bonding is linked to lower levels of depression and anxiety and provides a sense of validation, easing feelings of loneliness. Having someone to talk to can prevent a situation from spiraling into something more serious.

In-person engagement is especially powerful. A hug, a pat on the back, or a hand on your shoulder can be incredibly comforting. There’s something deeply healing about being physically present with others — something most of us became acutely aware of after the isolation of COVID.

A Simple, Powerful Prescription

At our core, we are meant to connect. I truly believe that is what life is about. It makes perfect sense that these connections would enhance both our longevity and quality of life. Our lives are more rewarding when we share them with others.

Whether it’s a lifelong friendship or a brief exchange in the grocery store, these interactions shape our well-being. So, reach out to that old friend or acquaintance. Join a group or volunteer for an organization. Strike up a conversation with the person next to you in the produce aisle. Cherish your time with loved ones and your community.

By doing so, you’re not just enriching your life — you’re investing in your long-term health and happiness.

I highly urge you to pick up that powerful prescription — human connection. It’s one of the healthiest choices you can make.