John Thomas Barham Of Bridgehampton Dies June 22

icon 1 Photo

author on Jun 24, 2013

John Thomas Barham

John Thomas Barham of Bridgehampton died on June 22. He was 89.

A native of Virginia, born March 2, 1924, Mr. Barham had roots that ran deep in Virginia history. He could trace his family to Jamestown as well as to the Mayflower. He studied at Randolph Macon Men’s College, Parsons School of Design, Academy Juliens in Paris and the American Academy in Rome. During World War II, he was an officer in the U.S. Air Force, flying B-17 and B-24 aircraft.

Mr. Barham’s passion was gardening, starting at age 8 and continuing until he died. According to his survivors, his gardening enthusiasm was inspired by his cousin, Roland Totten, who taught botany at the University of North Carolina and patiently explained to him the details of the plants indigenous to Virginia and North Carolina.

Mr. Barham lived in cities around the world and had homes in Paris, Rome, New York, San Francisco, Rio de Janeiro and Lima that all were chosen with an eye to the garden. His garden in Bridgehampton was photographed numerous times.

His survivors said he loved his life in the Hamptons. He had an active social life on the East End and was dedicated to his home and garden.

Mr. Barham shared his life for 47 years with Richard B. Auer, who predeceased him. Mr. Barham is survived by several nieces and nephews.

Funeral arrangements were under the direction of the O’Connell Funeral Home in Southampton.

You May Also Like:

Hayground School Students Get Peek Inside Artist's Studio

At the Hayground School, students are taught to enjoy and appreciate art, to explore their ... 9 Dec 2025 by Cailin Riley

Gardner Wrestling Tourney a Gripping Event

The smoothest-running Frank (Sprig) Gardner wrestling tournament in the five years that Ethan Mitchell has ... by Jack Graves

School News, December 11, Southampton Town

Westhampton Beach Senior Shines in Manhattan School of Music Precollege Program Westhampton Beach High School ... by Staff Writer

Community News, December 11

HOLIDAY HAPPENINGS Holiday Wrapping Workshop The Hampton Bays Public Library, 52 Ponquogue Avenue in Hampton ... by Staff Writer

Brown Wants Offense To Evolve After 0-3 Start for Baymen

When discussing his team for the upcoming season, Hampton Bays boys basketball head coach Noah ... by Drew Budd

Southampton Will Offer Green Bags Through Vending Machines at Dumps

Southampton Town residents soon will be able to purchase the green town-issued garbage bags, which ... by Michael Wright

Bridgehampton Union Leaders Go Public With Concerns Over Superintendent

​Bridgehampton School Teachers Association co-leaders Joseph Pluta and Caitlin Hansen in late November described a ... by Cailin Riley

‘The Secrets We Bury’

In Patricia Gillespie’s fascinating new documentary, “The Secrets We Bury,” Jean, now in her early ... by Lisa Wolf, MSW, LCSW

Flag Legends

I was surprised to find out that the Betsy Ross flag is not an official flag of the United States. The case for the Betsy Ross flag’s legitimacy is one of inter-meshing legends — and it begins in Bridgehampton. Bridgehampton had a militia in 1775. John Hulbert, its leader, recruited 68 men. Congress ordered him to escort the British prisoners taken in the Battle of Fort Ticonderoga to Philadelphia, the Continental capital. Hulbert found himself in Philadelphia in late October or early November 1775. Hulbert’s flag had 13 six-pointed stars in a blue field, six stripes deep, in a diamond ... 8 Dec 2025 by Staff Writer

Insult to Injury

Environmentally minded Southampton residents should be concerned that “Madison Ave. Capital Partners” is asking the Southampton Village Zoning Board of Appeals for permission to build a long, elevated catwalk or dock across tidal wetlands at 1323 Meadow Lane — presented at the ZBA’s December 4 meeting. The ZBA appears poised to rubber-stamp it on January 15. The location could not be more sensitive. The area between the home and Shinnecock Bay is not simply a “wetland” — it is a tidal wetland system, one of the healthiest and cleanest in the bay. These wetlands flood and drain with the tide, ... by Staff Writer