Joseph Robert ‘Jay’ Paul Of Bridgehampton Dies March 11 - 27 East
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Joseph Robert ‘Jay’ Paul Of Bridgehampton Dies March 11

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Joseph Robert ‘Jay’ Paul

Joseph Robert ‘Jay’ Paul

authorStaff Writer on Apr 22, 2022

Joseph Robert “Jay” Paul of New York City, Bridgehampton and Naples, Florida, died on March 11 at his Florida home. He was 91.

Born in Montreal, Paul earned a B.A. degree in fine arts from McGill University, then moved to New York to begin a distinguished career in advertising. Taking a position with McCann Erikson, he rose quickly to become an account executive (an early Mad Man!).

Later, Paul became sales promotion manager for Continental Can Company, and ultimately exposition manager at the Society of Automotive Engineers. For years, he managed the International Automotive Exposition, which attracted 30,000 visitors to Detroit each January.

Along life’s way, he fell in love with Bridgehampton prompting his early retirement. There, he designed and built an architecturally noted and beloved little French villa that he enjoyed for many years.

As the nephew of Arthur Judson, perhaps the most important music impresario of the 20th century and a founder of CBS, Paul had a lifelong love for the arts. He generously supported Pianofest in the Hamptons, Opera Naples, The Naples Players, and additionally served on the boards of Gulf Shore Opera, The French Heritage Society, and American Friends of Blerancourt.

Paul’s philanthropy extended to medical institutions including St. Vincent’s Hospital in Rye, New York, American Heart Association, East End Hospice, Stony Brook Southampton Hospital, The Hartford Institute for Geriatric Nursing at NYU, and Lighthouse for the Blind. Blerancourt, The Hartford Institute, and Lighthouse all honored Paul for his generosity.

Jay was a longtime member of the Metropolitan Club (NYC) and the New York Dancers.

Paul’s joie de vivre, kindness, and radiant smile touched everyone he met, his family said.

Predeceased by his beloved sister Daphne, Paul would like to be remembered for his love of life and his devotion to family and friends.

A Wake will be held at the Graham Funeral Home in Rye, New York, on Wednesday, May 11, at 9 a.m. A Mass of Christian Burial will follow at 11 a.m. at the Church of the Resurrection.

In lieu of flowers, a donation to the charity of one’s choice in his memory, would be most appreciated.

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