Lenore Kutlow Tobin of Westhampton Beach died on February 28 after a seven year battle with vascular dementia. She was 84.
Born in New York City and reared in Miami Beach before returning to New York, Ms. Tobin was a great athlete during her summer camp and Calhoun High School years. She graduated from Barnard College in 1957.
Ms. Tobin loved singing and sharing her camp songs her whole life as well as playing the ukulele and square and line dancing. She was rarely seen without her harmonica nearby and was always quick to play her favorite, “Oh Susannah” to a singing and clapping audience.
Throughout her life, Ms. Tobin was passionate about needlecrafts — knitting, sewing, needlepoint, and crewel embroidery, to name a few. Each of her grandchildren has their own quilt, handcrafted with love during late, late nights, her family said.
Ms. Tobin was an active community member during her 50 years in Westhampton Beach. When she was raising her children, she volunteered in the schools, led arts and crafts summer events, and organized adult education. She was an involved real estate broker in the village for many years and cherished her professional friendships. Yet nothing made her happier than a crowded house and an overflowing table of family and friends, according to her family.
Ms. Tobin, with her deep red hair, would love to be remembered as “Lenore doing Lenore,” not doing what mainstream friends or relatives did, her family said, noting that she was proud of standing alone if she needed to and always fought to make any wrongs right.
She is survived by her three children, Jocelyn Tobin (Stu Weissman) of Longmeadow, Massachusetts, Alison Tobin of Denver, Colorado, and Michael Tobin (Danna Greenberg) of Wellesley, Massachusetts; seven grandchildren, Nathan, Benjamin, Max, Gillian, Micaela, Jonah and Seth; her brother, Herb Kutlow (Dee) of Cardiff, California; her sister, Rosalee Kutlow Lubell of Tustin, California; and many cousins.
Funeral services were private. In lieu of flowers, donations to the Alzheimer’s Association (alz.org) would be appreciated by the family.