Raymond Arthur ‘Ray’ O’Shaughnessy of Remsenburg Dies June 28

Raymond Arthur O’Shaughnessy of Remsenburg, known to all as “Ray,” died peacefully on June 28, with his family at his side. He was 90.

Born on New Year’s Eve in 1934 to Henry and Emma O’Shaughnessy in Plainview, New Jersey, he was the youngest of six children.

When he was just 3 years old, his family made the move to Seaford, where the coast of Long Island would shape his love of the ocean and the outdoors. At Mepham High School, his natural athleticism shone brightly — he was an impactful member of the football, wrestling and track teams. His wrestling prowess earned him a scholarship to the University of Michigan, where he graduated in 1956.

After college, Long Island beckoned him home. He found his calling as an educator. For 34 years, he taught fifth grade and sixth grade, and worked as an administrator in the Seaford School District. Countless students remember Mr. O’Shaughnessy not just as a teacher, but as a gentle guide who believed in their potential and helped them discover their own strengths.

In 1970, he and his wife Carole started their life together in Remsenburg, building a partnership that exemplified devotion and shared purpose. Whether supporting Carole’s catering business or entertaining family and friends in their home, they moved through life as true companions.

He enjoyed working in the yard. Whether it was carefully crafting a croquet court for his grandchildren or meticulously tending the gardens — every flower bed, every carefully pruned shrub was a testament to his dedication and patience.

As a 50 year member of the Westhampton Yacht Squadron, he spent hours sailing, fishing, clamming or simply taking in the view of Moriches Bay. His passion for the outdoors extended beyond the water — he was a devoted birdwatcher, finding joy in observing birds in his yard and on the shoreline.

He is survived by his wife Carole; his eight children — Dan, Sean, Thomas, Ted, Donald, Brigid, Lynne, Sarah, and his stepdaughter Donna; 17 grandchildren; 12 great-grandchildren, many nieces and nephews.

Services will take place at a later date.

In lieu of flowers, donations to East End Hospice (eeh.org) would be appreciated.