Harmony for the Holidays

Let’s be real: As jolly as the holidays can be, they can also be overwhelming. Every year I tell my kids that this time will be different — simpler. No more “Santa gifts” (distinct from Mom and Dad gifts) with their own special wrapping paper. No more wrapping every tiny stocking stuffer and stuffing those socks to the max. No more meticulously counting gifts to make sure each child gets the exact same number or taking turns opening them for fairness. No more fretting — do I have enough, but not too much, to spoil them? (And then there was the year I completely overdid it, only to discover my husband had secretly bought us all new iPhones!)

My kids are 16, 18, and 24, so why do I keep doing this? In the process, I barely leave any time or energy to enjoy the season myself. And that’s just the beginning. There’s decorating — and then changing the batteries in all the lights. There’s baking ten times the recipe of my — if I do say so myself — delicious chocolate chip cookies to hand out to family, friends, and teachers. There’s endless spending (holidays sure are expensive!), navigating family dynamics (don’t talk politics), attending countless social functions, cooking and juggling the many other responsibilities that pile up this time of year. But despite it all, it is a magical season and brings so much joy!

However blissful, it can take a toll on us mentally and physically. Our bodies also feel the effects of all the holiday indulgence. It’s wonderful to receive the gifts of love and connection that abound this time of year — and, of course, a few material treats (hi, jewelry) — but those five or 10 extra pounds and the occasional blood sugar spike from sweet treats? Not exactly fabulous presents.

So how can we find balance — keeping the holidays magical and celebratory while still feeling good in our bodies? How can we experience joy without losing some of that joy in the process?

We don’t want to deprive ourselves; we should enjoy the delicious offerings. But a few small strategies can help keep things in check. At social events, consider contributing a bowl of hummus and veggies or a fruit platter to offset the desserts. Try filling up on nutritious foods before diving into confections. Do your best to maintain a balanced diet and stay active — exercise relieves stress and helps your waistline. When giving food gifts, think beyond sugar-laden boxes — herbal teas, nuts, or olive oils make thoughtful alternatives. After a certain point, people often don’t even want all the sweets anymore.

Make time for yourself. Schedule activities that relax and recharge you — take a bath, read a book, listen to music (maybe something other than carols), or go for a walk. Incorporate quiet time, meditation, yoga, or deep breathing to ease holiday anxiety. Create a spending budget so you don’t break the bank, remembering that thoughtfulness matters far more than price tags.

Plan ahead and prioritize what’s truly meaningful. It’s okay to say no and set limits. Laugh more and be present — not just for the presents. And as for the kids? Delegate tasks — they can help! You don’t have to do it all yourself. Set realistic expectations and remember: Sometimes, good enough is truly good enough.

Ultimately, the true meaning of the holidays lies in connection, gratitude, and kindness — not commercialism or confections. Surround yourself with loved ones and be merry! A perfect holiday season doesn’t have to be perfect at all. The magic is still there, even if the batteries in the lights — and in you — have run out of energy.