Letters

That’s the problem. On the surface, a violent relationship can look just like any other relationship. The abuser is erratic, often apologetic and loving; the victim is ashamed and wants to believe the horrible abuse will stop. And so the cycle continues, behind closed doors.

For many years, The Retreat in East Hampton has provided both a safe haven during a time of chaos, when a victim has made the first step toward survival, and a robust program of education designed to raise awareness and change behavior. Education is the road to prevention — to emptying all shelters — but it takes time and patience, and an ongoing conversation that starts with our kids.

During this month of domestic violence prevention, join The Retreat in making a difference. Be a model for your kids on what a healthy, positive relationship looks like. If you are having problems, reach out and get help. There is no judgment when you call the Retreat hotline … only an empathetic ear and help with taking the next step.

Keep an eye and an ear open for friends who might be having problems. It is always surprising what the face of domestic violence looks like.

And join me in the fight. Even a small donation helps extend our education programs into more schools. Share the hotline number, 631-329-2200, volunteer, and visit our website (www.allagainstabuse.org) for more in-depth information.

This month may be set aside for domestic violence prevention … but the issue is around all year — every month, every day — and minutes count when someone is being abused.

Claudia PilatoCo-Chair

The Retreat

East Hampton